“I’ve discovered that if I cling to the notion that something’s not possible, I’m arguing in favor of limitation.” – Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap
Clinging on to the impossibilities, or what you currently think is impossible results in two things:
ONE: It doesn’t motivate you to get started or try and
TWO: It never allows you to go after the life you deserve
Believing that something’s not possible is like placing a huge stop sign in front of you when you’re making a decision.
I get it. We all have fears, traumas, insecurities, wounds, and regrets.
We’re human. We’re fundamentally perfect and flawed at the same time.
We live in a paradox—the ego needing recognition and validation, while the deep inner part of our hearts seeks creativity, freedom, meaning, and fulfillment.
We’re yearning for our needs to be met, our voices heard, and minds embraced for its quirks and intricacy. I’d be lying to you if I said that the people I’m surrounded by, what I choose to watch, read, and engage in, don’t influence me.
Because it does. EVERYTHING DOES.
We do things to stay on top of trends in order to stay relevant and not get left behind. It’s a part of our genetic code–to stay with our tribe of people to survive.
But what I refuse to accept and what I see most of us do, is settle.
We settle because we’re scared. We settle because we don’t want to feel alone. We settle mostly because fear is so uncomfortable that we’re afraid. We’re afraid of what hasn’t yet been explored. It’s foreign terrain.
You may have a craft, a gift, purpose or hobby that’s been in your bones for ages, and are ready to take it take it to the NEXT LEVEL but don’t know how.
When we get trapped in the ‘”fear mindset” preventing us from taking any action, inevitably making us feel like we’re not good enough to live our truth.
Ohhhh, how we let fear take jabs at our deeper wants, time and time again. How we let our own mental limitations take us away from what the soul seeks to set free…
Interestingly enough, my coach recently asked me why I started falling behind with posting blogs and youtube videos.
I expressed how I hit a huge wave of depression and let it take over. She wasn’t buying into that story, and I wasn’t either. A huge wave of depression? I questioned that comment myself. Obviously, I was being dramatic and trying to justify why I wasn’t following through with my intentions.
She continued to probe and asked, “What do you think it is? What’s stopping you from following through?” (She knew it was much deeper)
“It’s fear of success.” I expressed.
“What do you fear if you’re successful?” She asked.
“I fear that if I get the life of my dreams, I’ll be alone,” I responded. “I have this image playing in my head of achieving financial freedom, going on trips and exploring the world with a deep, deep emptiness inside. How scary would that be? Going after everything I’ve ever wanted and having no one…”
Two things happened here…
First, hearing that out loud helped a shit load– Recognizing what needed to be called out and having my older wiser self actually listen to this scared side of me was very liberating.
And second, this imagined “emptiness” is exactly what’s preventing me from being consistent and what’s blocking my voice, vision, wisdom, strength, and courage to blossom.
Can you see how this belief is preventing me from going after my own desires?
We all have fabricated, elusive, and imaginary scenarios of how things can go badly…
But If there’s one thing I’m certain about, I know that being true to who we are doesn’t mean we stay stuck in one place emotionally, spiritually, psychologically and physically for the rest of our lives.
It’s about allowing ourselves to grow and evolve. Fighting through the fear is a part of the whole process.
It’s NOT about CLINGING TO THE NOTION THAT SOMETHING’S IMPOSSIBLE, BUT RATHER asking yourself who you’d become if you allowed yourself to stay in the same place for 1, 2, or 10 years from now.
Knowing who you are. Allowing yourself to fall flat on your face and get back up is living. It’s not about playing small, declaring a “new years” resolution, only to make yourself feel good temporarily. It’s about showing up for your LIFE, in small ways, every single day. It’s about not giving up on your dream, your future, your purpose or your truth.
It involves not giving up on yourself and sifting through every nook and cranny of your mind and heart and learning how to by-pass all the bullshit that’s holding you back. And the only way you can do that is by facing it head-on.
So the next time you feel like life is throwing every curve ball at you, ask yourself,
- What is the universe or life trying to teach me right now?
- What is it asking of me?
- What is it trying to reveal?
- Is it asking you to slow down?
- Take a break?
- Go on a vacation?
- Try something new?
- Leave your unhappy relationship?
- Travel the world?
- Try a new hobby?
- Get to know yourself more deeply?
- Love yourself more?
- Stop working so much?
Only you know what’s calling you deeply right now, and I say, follow that voice. Give yourself the opportunity to listen to your intuition, and follow the quiet and steady whispers of your heart. You only live once. Never debate or take sides with the internal voice of limitation. Step into a world of what’s possible. And dare to dream outside of what feels comfortable. You don’t get what you want by staying within the lines. You’ve got to go beyond that threshold and keep pushing beyond every limiting thought and circumstance that comes your way.
You’ve got this.